Was having brunch at a cafe at Jurong Regional Library this morning. A little boy (maybe 8 years old) came by wanting to share the table with us. He asked with his most gentle and innocent look, "Is... anyone... sitting... here.. ?" I was impressed! Happy with his good manners and courtesy! He made my day :)
It's been some time since I've met any kid so well-mannered. Most of the times, yes, unfortunately, these were what I've seen:
1. Kids rushing into MRT to get seats
2. Kids with shoes standing on MRT seats
3. Kids raising their voices at their parents/ elders
4. Kids who hit their parents/ elders
5. Yelling kids or kids crying to get attention
6. (Reasonably grown up) Kids getting seats in MRT/ buses instead of parents or (aging) grandparents.
I'm sure there are more.. Do you blame the kids or the parents? I blame the parents. Ooppsss ;p
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If we're talking about normal, healthy kids, generally, I put the blame on parents. Yet, those parents may feel that as they work and spend limited time with their kids, they don't want all their time with their kids to be about discipline. But personally, I feel that they set up their kids to have a hard time later in life. Depending on the age of the kids, when they become teenagers, I blame the kids themselves cos they know what is right and wrong and consistently choose to do wrong. Perhaps their choice of friends also play a part.
On the other hand, there are autistic kids who may sound like they are unruly but are how they express themselves. Sometimes, when it seems that their parents don't care, it's that their parents care and know that's how they express themselves and so allow them to do so. It is us as observers that don't understand autistic kids enough to offer them understanding.
I didn't know about autism until I moved to Australia where it has a higher profile and I have learnt not to think that every unruly kid was really unruly.
Is the lau bu lau pei lah. Kids will always test test the parents and see how far they can go. They learn so much (good and bad) from their friends, TV and many things they see daily. Last Sunday nite, we ate out. There was this boy, I think 8-9yrs old. He looks kind of active but totally acted like a idiot! He was sticking out his tongue to everyone behind his father's back all the time! Of course Kayzia was very upset with him. Kayzia kept something, " I didnt so anything to him, why he is doing this to me." I told Kayzia, we cant control his action, but we can control how we feel. But kayzia kept looking at him, got more upset. I told kayzia, "if you keep looking at him you will get more upset right? then dun look at him." and Kayzia used her hand to block her view of the boy. I stared hard at the boy, he even got the gut to make fun of me, an adult! I went, YO! then I suddenly stood up. Of course he got scared! I am sure the dad knows what his son is doing behind his bad. Unless the father is blind, then i got nothing to say. What did he do? nothing. And all the other table, I saw another father, obviously angered by his son (10-11yrs old) playing with his drink(he almost toppled his drink). He went "I HIT YOUR HEAD THEN YOU KNOW", with his hand raised, threathening to strike his son anytime. 1 dinner 2 incidents. 2 different fathers. Kayzia went, "I can still see the boy sticking out his tongue u know. I can see from here" With right hand covering her face, left index finger pointing at the corner of her right eye......
Hi Vic, yea, I was talking about the perfectly normal kids. I do understanding a lot of patient parenting skills need to be put in.. somehow kids nowadays are no longer as obedient as we were hoh?? Hhahaha!!
Mr Foo.. Kayzia is so cute!! That irritating boy is obviously an attention seeker! What can we do when even the dad ignored?? Maybe you should have asked Kayzia to smile, wink or wave at him instead? So if that boy really comes over, Kayzia can say, "You idiot!" HAHAHAHAHHA!!! Ok, don't tell Kayzia this. Hahha!!
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